Like so many of us, for decades, I built the ‘perfect’ image and hid from the world. I hid from myself. And I didn’t know that a healthy relationship was.

I thought others might like me ‘less’ if they knew what had happened to me. So, I moved inside my head; I locked myself in an intellectual armor that let no one close to my heart … not even me. Unfortunately, I was far from being emotionally healthy.


Interestingly, that’s how I began to work with my clients. They were wonderful, warm, entrepreneurial, and driven women. However, they too, often didn’t feel safe to be in touch with their hearts. Yet, they wanted to experience a deep, meaningful, healthy relationship with themselves and others.

I didn’t realize it at the time, but I felt I must prove I had the right to exist. I chased diplomas and certifications. Like so many of my clients, I got married, even had kids, and built the white picket fence. I did what I was supposed to do, but I felt empty. Always wondering what was wrong with me since I “had it all.”

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It took me a long time to realize that what I needed was to have a healthy relationship with myself first to experience a healthy relationship with others.

All I had to do was to find a way to be loving towards myself!

Easier said than done because, as I said earlier, I locked my heart away, even from myself. I excluded myself from all my relationships!

And like so many of my clients, I had made everyone else a priority, except me.

Still clinging to my intellectual armor for dear life, I finally got tired of going to bed physically exhausted and emotionally drained. I decided to attend an event hosted by a top leadership expert, Dov Baron.

Standing on stage, Dov asked a question that would haunt me for months to come:

“Who are you hurting by playing small?”

What a mind-blowing question!

I wonder what would happen if you asked it yourself.

That night, I cried into my pillow, his question echoed in my head. The answer was clear. I would be hurting the people I loved if I continued to play small, especially my kids.

In fact, I also secretly knew I was hurting many more people than just my immediate family.

I reached out to Dov and he agreed to mentor me. With great compassion and some hard truths, he blew my armor to pieces, allowing me to open my heart to myself and others so I could experience what a healthy relationship is. It was then I realized that I had shown little compassion toward myself and others.

Until the very moment I met my mentor Dov Baron, I had always told myself I’d have to do “it” (whatever it was) alone … I was wrong!

Let me share this with you … No one does it alone! We need all the help we can get when it comes to experiencing a healthy relationship with the self and others.

As an emotional intelligence coach and a strategic thinker what Anne brings to her clients is deep, powerful and practical. She is highly skilled and trained and through her writing and personal story, you will see that her own journey has not been an easy one. However, because of her depth of emotional intelligence, she has been able to retrieve the true beauty and gifts she brings to all who work with her.”

Inc Magazine Top 100 Leadership Speaker, Bestselling Author, Mentor and Founder of FullMontyLeadership

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