Emotional Intelligence Personal Finances Video


We all want more money.

Keeping that in mind, have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I not experiencing the kind of money I know I deserve?”

For many of us, it can be emotionally troubling to notice other people who seem less smart than us to have more of the green stuff than we do. “What is it about someone that makes them a money magnet?”

I don’t know about you, but those were the kind of questions that went circling the drain in my head when I caught myself comparing my financial abundance to others.

It has taken me years of being mentored to finally start getting it at a much deeper level. As Dov Baron wonderfully explains it in his book, Don’t Read This Unless You Want More Money, “In life you don’t get what you deserve; you get what you think you deserve.”

Therefore, what is it about us that makes us think that we might not deserve superb financial abundance?

The answer is found in the Emotional Intelligence of money.

Allow me to explain.

The Emotional Intelligence of money is:

  • understanding what you feel about money and why you feel that way;

  • it’s sensing the difference between your wants and your needs, really understanding what money means to you emotionally;

  • a way to welcome more money and enjoy it.

We all like to think that we make financial decisions rationally. Wrong! It is our feelings that dictate the $$$ decisions we make (and the kind of financial abundance we get to experience).

To make this clearer for you, let’s do an exercise:

Do you rationally welcome $1,000,000 in your bank account right now? Yes? Awesome!

Now, let’s pretend that you’re walking in the middle of the desert and there’s no one else around. Suddenly, you find a suitcase that contains $1,000,000 in unmarked bills. What is the #1 feeling that came up? Be honest with yourself.

To rationally prove ourselves right, our #1 feeling then references our beliefs and memories (our why we feel that way). What is your belief/memory around that kind of $$$?

I did this exercise with a coaching client of mine. Smiling, they told me they rationally welcomed $1,000,000 or more! But when I asked them what was the #1 feeling that arose from finding that money in the desert, they answered, “Panic!”, and their referenced belief was, “Mafia.” For that client to know what it feels like to welcome $1,000,000 in their bank account, they must turn that feeling of  panic into a feeling of heartfelt gratitude, for example. Which means they must reference more empowering money beliefs in order to feelingly welcome more $$$ to them. 

“Why am I not experiencing the kind of money I know I deserve?”

You now know the answer to that question. What is the #1 feeling you mostly associate with $$$ and your bank account?

  • If you are experiencing a negative feeling with $$$, then you are signalling the universe NOT to send you more money because it is apparently stressing you out.


“What is it about someone that makes them a money magnet?” 

You now also know the answer to that question. Why do you feel that way about $$$?

  • If you got excited at finding $1,000,000 in the desert, then you just told the Universe to dump truckloads of money in your backyard!

The Emotional Intelligence of money permeates every area of our lives. If someone who seems less smart than us is experiencing more $$$ and financial wealth than us, then it’s very likely they welcome money with more open arms.

If you would like to book a call where we will chat about how I can assist you attract more financial wealth into your life, here’s the link;

Your financial EQ coach,

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Emotional Intelligence Shame Video


Recently, I had the following conversation with Jane (name changed). Feeling frantic, the young, professional woman said to me, “I don’t have the money to see you. But I will find it! I can’t go on like this anymore! I am so unhappy! Can you imagine? I am sorry I did not contact you sooner. I was too ashamed.”

This kind of sharing might seem strange to you at first. But to me, they are the staple of my work as a financial emotional intelligence coach. When my clients first come to see me, it is usually because the sh*t has hit the fan. As a result, they are feeling frantically desperate to resolve their problems.

Jane’s case is not alone. Like me in the past, the young woman waited until she was at the end of her rope … until she felt like she was about to lose everything. Only then, did her desire to help herself kick higher than the shame she said she was feeling at the time.

When asked why she had waited so long before coming to see me, the young woman frantically answered, “I thought I could figure it out on my own. But things just got worse and worse …”

And when asked about her current line of work, Jane flatly said that she hated her job; she wished she had studied something different in college. Looking away, she said she kept that job because she was craving “stability of income” above everything else. Sound familiar?

Let me ask you …

Why do we perpetuate financial shame?

Why do we crave stability of income above everything else?

I believe the answer is, because we think stability of income will help us stop feeling ashamed of our past financial decisions.

If that is true, how will perpetuating financial shame ever make us feel good about our past financial decisions?

Clearly, perpetuating financial shame does NOT work.

With that in mind …

How do things become better?

I believe things become better when we focus on:

  • becoming aware. ‘In what areas am I perpetuating financial shame?’

  • becoming intentional. ‘What can I do right now to effectively address my financial shame?

  • becoming accountable. ‘What can I do right now to keep holding myself accountable to thrive both emotionally and financially?’

When I allowed myself to feel my financial shame, I realized that by compassionately touching it, it was losing its power over me. Compassionately touching our financial shame gives us the clarity to make emotionally intelligent decisions that made us thrive in all areas of our lives. Therefore …

Here are four (4) rock solid applications showing you how to stop perpetuating financial shame in your life:


  • Write down all the areas where you might be feeling financial shame. For example, you might be feeling financial shame around your divorce, job salary, retirement income, education fund for your kids, credit card debts, bank loans, etc.


  • Ask yourself, “Why do I feel that way?For each listed area, ask yourself what it is about the job salary or <insert area> that might make you feel financial shame.


  • Take a trip down your childhood memories. The knee-jerk in the application above is to answer superficially. Therefore, if you are keeping a job you despise because “you need the money” (that’s the easy answer), who taught you that making money is more important than acknowledging your true feelings? In Jane’s case, going deeper with me, she revealed that her mother keeps telling her that her daughter is “useless” unless her child holds a job and makes money.


  • Make your emotional well-being your #1 responsibility and here is why: a thought brings up an image in our mind. If we keep seeing that image in our mind, we then associate an emotion with it (we assign a meaning). Should we continue thinking this thought and evoking that emotion, we then generate a feeling. Our feelings are generated by dipping into our beliefs and memories (our past clusters of thoughts), which triggers a “new” thought. A thought brings up an image in our mind …. Now, can you think of what happens if the thought we are having triggers financial shame? Then what?

Remember … financial shame is a state of mind (thought) that we can stop perpetuating if we effectively address the root cause of our financial shame.

My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am a financial emotional intelligence coach who assists her clients in compassionately understanding where their financial shame comes from so they thrive both emotionally and financially. I can be reached at
Your financial EQ coach,

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Blind Spots Emotional Intelligence Video


A financial emotional leak shows how our emotions affect our relationship with money.

To make this clearer, here’s an analogy:

I had recently bought a townhouse which I really liked. But that changed the day I experienced my first water leak in the basement. Panicking, I opened the phone book and called the first plumbing company I saw. That day, a novice plumber came and fixed the leak. He charged me hundreds of dollars for the repair.

Less than two months later, I experienced my second water leak in the basement. I called the same plumbing company.  A more experienced plumber was dispatched. He told me that my water leak was about one foot away from the previous one. He charged me hundreds of dollars for the repair.

A few months later, I experienced my third water leak in the basement. It was then that I realized I needed a compassionate expert plumber, someone who understood my leaking problem and cared deeply about how to effectively solving my issue.

A compassionate expert is someone who understands our leaking problem and cares deeply about solving our issue.

That compassionate expert plumber asked me lots of questions. He wanted to get a thorough understanding of my water leaking history.

After listening intently, he calmly stated that we needed to break through my sealed basement ceiling because we needed to examine my water pipes configuration.

I looked at him with big, round eyes as he precisely started cutting small holes into the basement ceiling. In each hole, he shined a light.

Before long, we found out that the house builder had run the hot and cold water pipes side by side between two structural beams, which caused the pipes to condensate and crack with the result of water leaking all over my basement. The house builder had done that to save money.

Let me ask you …

Why do we perpetuate a financial emotional leak?

I believe the answer is, because we think a compassionate expert plumber (aka financial emotional intelligence coach) is not worth paying the money for. As a result, we think we can fix our leaks much cheaper on our own. But at what cost?

Clearly, the solution to a financial emotional leak is to call a financial emotional intelligence expert who can compassionately show us how our emotions are affecting our relationship with money and what we can do differently to make our financial emotional leak a thing of the past.

Let’s face it … When you’ve spent years wrapped up in limiting beliefs about money, it can seem impossible to unto the condensation (sweat) and cracking (stress) that comes from feeling the pressure of poor financial decisions (mind’s pipe configuration). With this in mind …

When do things become better?

I believe, things become better when we focus on

  • becoming aware. ‘Where am I experiencing a financial emotional leak?’

  • becoming intentional. ‘What am I willing to do right now to fix my financial emotional leak?’

  • becoming accountable. ‘Who can help me effectively fix my financial emotional leak?’


When I hired an emotional intelligence mentor who understood how to shine a light onto my financial emotional leaks, my life drastically changed. I stopped bleeding money all over the place and I started thriving emotionally and financially simultaneously.

My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am a financial emotional intelligence coach who shines a light onto her clients’ money beliefs so we effectively fix their financial emotional leaks for good. I can be reached at
With compassion,

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Curiosity Emotional Intelligence Video


Once upon a time, there was a small yellow chicken and a big brown bear who lived within a tree.

The big brown bear loved the small yellow chicken very much! Oftentimes, he held the small yellow chicken between its giant paws so his little friend could take a peek at his fellow humans. The small yellow chicken was the kind of being filled with genuine curiosity.

One day, the small yellow chicken asked the big brown bear why so many humans failed to see them. The big brown bear answered, “Because I think they think they’re too busy to notice the likes of you and me.”

At first surprised by such blindness on the humans’ part, the small yellow chicken then wondered out loud, “Why do you think that is?”

The big brown bear heaved a giant sigh. “Many humans have been taught to think they are separate from us. To them, a tree might just be a tree. If they think that way, how could they ever realize there might be a big brown bear and a small yellow chicken living within a tree?”

The little chicken looked at his friend with great determination. “We must change that!” he affirmed.

How can we help everyone realize that we all exist?

The big brown bear approached the question with great curiosity. After a while, he honestly said, “I don’t know.” Thinking some more, he added, “How can we help someone realize that we all exist when that someone is glued to their cell phone while walking through a park? How can we help someone realize that we all exist when their mind is preoccupied with how to pay the mortgage or whom to date?”

The small yellow chicken’s shoulders slumped forward. He was suddenly feeling increasingly sad. To him, it now seemed like an impossible task to make everyone believe in the “I’m possible, therefore I am”

Feeling crestfallen, the small yellow chicken burst into tears. He so badly wanted humans to see that a small yellow chicken and big brown bear could live within a tree. What could he do?

What is possible with genuine curiosity?

The big brown bear hugged the small yellow chicken and softly said, “We all have free will. This means that everyone must first be willing to look within themselves to see all of us. We both know that a tree is more than a tree … ”

Lost in sadness, the small yellow chicken’s tears formed a giant loving puddle at its feet. He kept pondering, “There must be a way! There’s always a way to foster genuine curiosity!”

After what seemed like a long, long time, he firmly announced, “What if we told our story? What if we showed humans how much they mean to us. Surely, they’ll then notice the likes of you and me?” Bursting into a fit of giggles, he excitedly proposed, “Who can resist a small yellow chicken and big brown bear living within a tree?”

Happy to notice his friend was now feeling better, the big brown bear said encouragingly, “This could work!”

To both their surprise, a middled-aged who was taking pictures of flowers and kissing grown-up trees stopped by. Compassionately looking at both of them, she softly whispered, “Good morning!” Then she took this picture of the big brown bear and the small yellow chicken living within a tree.

My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am a financial emotional intelligence coach who assists her clients in becoming genuinely curious as to what it possible when it comes to their personal finances so they multiply money and enjoy it! I can be reached at

Another great resource to check out for genuine curiosity based leadership: 

Emotional Boundaries Emotional Intelligence Video


I know a little girl who is fascinated with flowers and trees. She can also hear the wind whispering in her ear. In the village where she comes from, she is often ridiculed for caring about such “trivial” things. Regardless of what anybody says, she continues to persevere because she wants to be invited in.

One day, she feels the need to greet the most majestic tree she has ever seen in her life. The tree seems ancient, with its branches spreading in all directions. The little girl tries to hug it, but her arms are falling short. Not knowing what else to do, she decides to say hello to the tree.

The tree replies, “How’s the ‘chid?”

Laughing, the little girl answers, “Kid’s good.”


How many times do we say hello with the hope to get into someone’s inner circle?

The little girl’s attention moves to a cobra dragon resting nearby. “I guess all tree castles need a sentinel,” she wonders out loud.

“Would you like to visit in?” asks the tree.

The little girl pauses a moment, then shyly agrees. ‘It is not every day a tree invites you in,’ she smiles to herself.

Trying to find a point of entry, she circles the tree three times, but to no avail; she cannot see the door and becomes anxious because of it.

Sensing her anxiousness, the tree gently states,

“When invited in, the door gets opened.”

Realizing that the tree had just made a valid point, the little girl laughs heartily and patiently stands in the rain while waiting for a door to magically appear and open.

But to her great surprise and dismay,  the tree suddenly urges her, “You must leave. Now!”

For the little girl, this change of mood and circumstance seems so sudden. As she turns around to honour the tree’s request, she comes face to face with a middle-aged woman, who has deep slanted eyes and one of the whitest complexions she has ever witnessed in her life.

The woman is wearing a black bomber jacket, black pants, and black shoes. Even her hair is jet black. She is holding a black umbrella in one hand and is pushing a black baby carriage with the other. She looks at the little girl with piercing eyes. Taking out of  her purse a small bag of cat treats labelled Temptations, she feeds them to whatever is inside the baby carriage.

“Do babies eat cat treats?” she asks the woman before she realizes that the grown-up  is pushing a black little dog in her black stroller. Not knowing what else to do, she decides to say hello to the woman. But the woman refuses to greet her back. Still, the little girl continues to persevere.

“Such a beautiful tree, don’t you think?” she asks the woman, feeling hopeful for a positive answer on the adult’s part.

“Mmm…” was all the woman could say.

“Are you sure?” asks the little girl, wanting to connect deeper.

“Mmm….” replies the woman again.

With all her might, the little girl feels for the woman, she feels for the tree. All she wants is to get invited in, but a door must open for that to happen.

Until such moment occurs for her, this inner child continues to listen to the wind whispering in her ear and is more fascinated than ever with flowers and trees.
My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am an Emotional Intelligence Coach who assists her clients in connecting deeper with their inner child. I can be reached at
Your EQ coach,
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