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What The Fear of Silence Does to Our Money Beliefs

 

The case of the unwanted purchase

Let’s pretend it’s a warm Sunday afternoon and your life partner walks into the living room, angrily brandishing a credit card statement in their hand.

“Did you make that purchase?” they yell.

Pretending not to hear them, you ‘quietly’ keep reading your book as if they had just said nothing.

“I know you heard me,” they replied loudly. “Did-you-make-that-purchase?”

Looking guilty, you bow your head as if deeply absorbed in a fascinating anecdote in your book.

Your life partner is undeterred. They continue, “Let’s talk about this! I thought we agreed we would make all big purchases together. What on earth possessed you to buy that thing without consulting me first?”

You bite your lip, saying nothing. Your life partner stops talking and storms out of the room. Both of you can feel the icy chill in the air for days to come.

We’ve all been there … One way or the other.

What is the fear of silence?

I’ve shared this little story to better show you what the fear of silence is about.

For example …

Do you believe people who yell fear silence?

Or is it those who say nothing that fear silence?

Saying nothing and yelling can be viewed as two extremes of the same situation.

In the case of the unwanted purchase, both parties were fearing silence, and here is why:

What does befriending silence mean?

 

In the context of Financial Emotional Intelligence, befriending silence means that:

 

  • We are feeling into what money means to us emotionally. What this means is, we understand what our dominant feeling about money is, where it comes from, and how it impacts our money beliefs and our relationship with others.

 

  • We make it safe for others to discover how they truly feel about money and why. We suspend all judgment and choose to inquire from a place of genuine curiosity. In other words, we encourage others to dig in and identify the money beliefs that don’t work for them, and we assist them in safely letting them go.

 

In our example above …

Did the life partner brandishing the credit card statement understand what money meant to them emotionally and why? What makes you say that?

Did the life partner ignoring the credit card statement  understand what money means to them emotionally and why? What makes you say that?

When we positively sit in our silence, we get to feel what money means to us emotionally and why, and we get to empower others to do the same.

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I am the Financial Emotional Intelligence coach women entrepreneurs hire to build a thriving business through a carefully executed action plan. You can book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

To know more about how your feeling impact money and what you can do differently to have a healthier relationship with money, I’ve got a great webinar for you: https://financialeq.coach/webinar/

 

 

 

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Money? It’s Not What You Think!

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How to Change One Money Belief

 

 

Bonjour! This is Anne from Femme Sauvage, the heart of money matters.

This is video #10, a summary video to show what can happen when we choose to develop our financial emotional intelligence.

Case study:

 

Let’s take a client I worked with years ago. Let’s call her Tess.

Tess felt anxious every time she received a bill even though she had the money to pay for it.

Because of her constant anxiety, Tess was not readily available to experience anything else.

And she was running a business!

 

Can you imagine how her anxiety impacted her relationship with her spouse, her kids, her clients?

 

When a prospect did not accept her business offer, she often went into a bigger tailspin of anxiety.

Tess’ life changed when she asked for help and started taking empowering actions to develop her Financial Emotional Intelligence. She agreed to change one money belief. 

In the past, Tess was convinced that “money is in limited supply.” Through working with me, she now believes that “money is in infinite supply” and forever multiplying!

As a result, Tess is now enjoying tender moments with her spouse and kids. Her anxiety has lessened drastically. She’s smiling a lot more. And her clients keep giving her their repeat business and referrals. 

Imagine what I could do for you.

How to change one money belief:

 

Tess’ story is the story of many of us. But where Tess might be different is that she got to understand three things: 

#1 A fish can’t describe water. We can’t see it when we’re emotionally invested in it. Blind spots are called blind for a reason.

#2 Self-awareness without empowering action is like dust on the shelves of our mind. It leads nowhere.

#3 No one does it alone. A fish can’t describe water. Blind spots are called blind for a reason. And awareness requires action to turn into wisdom. Ask for help for much faster results.

One advantage of developing our financial emotional intelligence is that we get to remove our blind spots so we can be fully emotionally present with what’s important to us.

Because the heart of money matters!

On that note …

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues without feeling depleted. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It

 

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Targeting Emotional Wellbeing And Financial Empowerment

 

 

Bonjour! This is Anne from Femme Sauvage. In this short video series, I unpack what it means to have financial emotional intelligence.

And in today’s video, we explore how to manage our relationships when it comes to money. Because the goal is to nurture emotional wellbeing and achieve financial empowerment.

But before we start, I’d like to share with you a statistic that came from a survey of 2,000 adults in relationships.

That statistic is, people are 10x more likely to leave a relationship if they think their partner is bad with finances.

Why would anyone put themselves in that situation? I believe the answer is, because they think it’s their partner who has a problem with money, not them.

Targeting emotional wellbeing and financial empowerment:

 

Think of the last quarrel you’ve had about money.

Which money belief did you fight for?

I am asking because … That money belief, is it yours? 

What I mean by that is … Have you closely examined that belief and carefully chosen it because it upholds the magnificent image of wealth you want for yourself and your partner?

If not, it begs the question again: Why would anyone put themselves in that situation? 

 

So, here’s a financial EQ strategy to help you better manage your relationships when it comes to money:

 

Take a blank piece of paper and draw a line in the middle.

On the right side, write all your money beliefs.

When that’s done, on the left side, describe the image of wealth you want to uphold for you and your partner.

And with that self-awareness, ask for help to develop your financial EQ.

Because a fish can’t describe water. No one can see their own blind spots. Blind spots are called blind for a reason. So, ask for help!

On that note …

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues without feeling depleted. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It

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Bye Anxiety! How to Feel Positively About Money

 

 

Bonjour! This is Anne from Femme Sauvage, the heart of money matters.

And I’m here today with another video to assist in better managing your feelings and emotions when it comes to money.

Why feeling anxiety repels money.

 

When our dominant feeling about money is anxiety, we’ll tend to feel more anxious the more money we encounter. As a result, we’ll find ways to repel money because of the anxiety we feel with it.

To make it clearer for you … 

Let’s say we have a relative we only see once a year because we feel anxious when we’re with them.

If we were to see that relative multiple times a day every day, we would most likely feel more anxious the more we encounter them. As a result, we’d find ways to repel them because of the anxiety we feel with them.

It’s the same for money! 

Feeling negatively about money makes us energetically repel money. So what can we do?

Here’s a financial emotional intelligence (FEQ) to feel compassion for ourselves:

 

Journal on the root cause of your negative feelings towards money. Ask yourself what it is that makes you feel anxious, worried, or fearful about money. 

 

Then positively apply your gained self-awareness right away. I don’t know about you, but I make time to feel compassion for my parents and the child in me who grew up poor and were fed a bunch of lies when it comes to money.

 

Feeling compassion releases anxiety and helps us build a thriving relationship with money.

On that note …

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues without feeling depleted. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It

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Stop Making Money Evil In Your Relationships!

 

 

We all love to say we are empathetic. We all love to say we feel for others. 

But when it comes to money, oftentimes, we get triggered before we might choose to deliberately understand how others feel about money and why they feel that way. 

Let me give you an example of what I mean:

Tess walks in a coffee shop and orders a cup of Kopi Luwak coffee.

Standing in line behind her, you’re intrigued; you’ve never heard about that brand before.

You think of perhaps buying yourself a cup too.

When the barista hands over the coffee to Tess, she tells her, “It’s gonna be $100.”

Smiling, Tess takes out her wallet and hands over 5 $20 bills. 

When you heard that specific cup of coffee costs $100, what emotion came up for you? 

And as you kept thinking about the cost of that cup of coffee with that emotion attached to it, you generated a feeling. What was it?

I am asking because … While doing this exercise, did you at any moment choose to deliberately understand what emotionally drove Tess to gladly pay $100 to experience that cup of coffee? 

Being empathetic in our relationships:

 

As I said at the beginning of this video, we all love to say we are empathetic. We all love to say we feel for others. But to what extent are we empathetic when we’re feeling triggered?

 

So, here’s my financial emotional intelligence strategy for you today:

 

  • Genuinely ask your loved one how they feel about money and why they feel that way. For example, if they have to pay rent this month, ask them how they feel about paying rent this month. Ask them what it is about paying rent that makes them feel that way. Suspend judgment. 

 

  • Being able to relate to another when it comes to their relationship with money speaks volumes about our own relationship with money. 

 

On that note …

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues without feeling depleted. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It

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How to Generate Positive Feelings About Money

 

 

Bonjour! Je m’appelle Anne! This is the video #6 in this series. I am doing my best to give you a ton of value here. Because I want you to uplift your financial emotional intelligence.

What are you getting out of this? I want to make sure you are actually using this. 

In the first five videos, we talked about emotional intelligence, what it is, and we’ve looked at connecting it to your finances. 

Now we’re gonna address each area of emotional intelligence again but we’re going to dive deeper into what it means for you and your money. 

1st area of FEQ: Self-awareness

 

In the context of Financial EQ (FEQ), self-awareness is about becoming more aware of how you dominantly feel about money and why you feel that way.

For example, many of us say we love it when we receive the money and we don’t like it when we have to pay money. 

So, what’s your dominant feeling about money when there seems to be conflicting feelings at play? It’s easy to find out. It’s the feeling that tends to linger after money has already passed through our hands. That feeling can be fear, anxiety, worry, gratitude, appreciation, etc.

What is the feeling that tends to linger for you after you’ve paid or received money? 

 

I am asking because … How we feel about money directly dictates how many dollars we get to enjoy.

With that in mind …

Here’s my FEQ tip for you today:

 

Ask yourself, “What am I feeling right now?” 

You’ve got to get to the feeling. 

Check with yourself several times a day. What are you feeling right now? (pause)

Become aware of all your feelings. Not only when you pay or receive money, but all the time. That way, you get a sense … you’re touching in on your feelings instead of letting them control your life.

Doing this strategy will give you a clearer perspective about money. Because you’ll better understand what money means to you emotionally and why. 

On that note … 

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues without feeling depleted. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It

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How to Stop Compromising On Your Value

 

 

 

We’re on video 5 in this series! We’re talking about financial emotional intelligence, what it means. Now we’re gonna look at what it means in the context of managing our relationships when it comes to money. 

Here’s my question to you: When you, as a business person, get lowballed on a product or service offer you sincerely made, what do you do?

Do you secretly think the other person is an arse for not seeing the value you offer?

Do you try to convince them to see things your way?

Or do you compassionately leave it at that and walk away, smiling?

I am asking because … Your value is yours to recognize and positively express. 

How to stop compromising on your value:

 

Your value is yours to recognize and express. What this means, there’s no belittling, no convincing, no arguing, no withdrawing, no pouting.

We either show up or we don’t. 

With that in mind …

Here’s my financial emotional intelligence strategy for you today:

 

  • Pay attention to where you might be compromising your value. Maybe it’s in the fees you charge your clients. 

 

  • Once you know where you’re compromising your value, take an empowering action to positively claim that value. Maybe it means charging higher fees for your products and services. 

 

Most entrepreneurs tend to devalue their offer in order to close more sales. But it sends the wrong signal. Not only to your customers. But most importantly, to you. This is why owning our value is crucial for emotional and financial stability.

On that note … 

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues without feeling depleted. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It

 

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How to Manage Our Feelings About Money

 

 

 

Welcome back! We’re video 4!

So far we’ve taken a general approach to what emotional intelligence is.

And in the last two videos (video #2 and video #3), we’ve become a lot more specific. Because we’ve talked about emotional intelligence in the context of finances. We looked at self-awareness and awareness of others when it comes to how we feel about money and why we feel that way. 

Now, we’re gonna talk about self-management.

Why we need to manage our feelings about money:  

 

Let me ask you … Why do you feel the way you do about money?

Because there’s a good chance you feel different about getting it and not getting it.  

I am asking because … Our mind does not give a crap whether we feel good or bad about money. It simply takes our dominant feeling about money and dips it into the pool of beliefs and memories we’ve associated with it. We are constantly emotionally validating our beliefs!

What’s not so funny is that our mind never questions our money beliefs. It blindly takes our feelings about money and validate them, no matter how crappy they may be.

So here’s your financial emotional intelligence strategy for you today:

 

  • Take a piece of paper. Write down everything you’ve been told about money, such as “money doesn’t grow on trees” or “money is in short supply.” Put every belief in quotation marks to show it’s a belief. 

 

  • Now, I want you to pick one of those beliefs, let’s say “money is in short supply.”  What would be the financial emotional intelligence version of that? It would be “Money is in infinite supply.” 

 

  • The next step is to go find evidence of it. Well, that’s easy. According to the fractional reserve banking system, money is forever multiplying. Look it up. It’s fascinating!

 

On that note … 

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues without feeling depleted. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It

 

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How to Stop Taking Things Personally In Sales

 

 

 

 

Welcome back! T0day, we’re gonna talk to you about the second area of emotional intelligence: awareness of others. 

Of course! We’re gonna talk about it in the context of financial emotional intelligence. 

Emotionally understanding how others feel about money and why they feel that way.

 

Let me give you an example. 

You’re a business person. And you put forward a proposal, your offer, to a customer.

As you put forth your proposal, you may have people who respond in a way that is less than the way you want them to. Maybe they have some sticker shock, maybe they think it is too cheap or too expensive, whatever it is. 

Their reaction has nothing to do with you and everything to do with how they feel, what their level of financial emotional intelligence is. 

Can you allow yourself to go into that space with them? To wonder and become curious as to what it is they are feeling? 

How to stop taking things personally:

 

I get it! You make an offer. But the other person is not snapping at it. And you’re focusing on you.

Focus on them instead. That’s the key in this particular area of financial emotional intelligence.

If you’re focused on you, you can feel hurt. 

But if you’re focused on them, you’ll see it actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with how they feel about money. 

Focusing on how your customers feel about money and alleviating that pain point for them generates more business and referrals. 

My name is Anne Beaulieu. I’m the Financial Emotional Intelligence Coach women entrepreneurs hire to help them maximize revenues. Book a discovery call with me at https://financialeq.coach/contact-us/

I’m also inviting you to explore the online course, How to Grow Money and Enjoy It