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THE CHICKEN AND THE BEAR: A STORY ABOUT CURIOSITY

Once upon a time, there was a small yellow chicken and a big brown bear who lived within a tree.

The big brown bear loved the small yellow chicken very much! Oftentimes, he held the small yellow chicken between its giant paws so his little friend could take a peek at his fellow humans. The small yellow chicken was the kind of being filled with genuine curiosity.

One day, the small yellow chicken asked the big brown bear why so many humans failed to see them. The big brown bear answered, “Because I think they think they’re too busy to notice the likes of you and me.”

At first surprised by such blindness on the humans’ part, the small yellow chicken then wondered out loud, “Why do you think that is?”

The big brown bear heaved a giant sigh. “Many humans have been taught to think they are separate from us. To them, a tree might just be a tree. If they think that way, how could they ever realize there might be a big brown bear and a small yellow chicken living within a tree?”

The little chicken looked at his friend with great determination. “We must change that!” he affirmed.

How can we help everyone realize that we all exist?

The big brown bear approached the question with great curiosity. After a while, he honestly said, “I don’t know.” Thinking some more, he added, “How can we help someone realize that we all exist when that someone is glued to their cell phone while walking through a park? How can we help someone realize that we all exist when their mind is preoccupied with how to pay the mortgage or whom to date?”

The small yellow chicken’s shoulders slumped forward. He was suddenly feeling increasingly sad. To him, it now seemed like an impossible task to make everyone believe in the “I’m possible, therefore I am”

Feeling crestfallen, the small yellow chicken burst into tears. He so badly wanted humans to see that a small yellow chicken and big brown bear could live within a tree. What could he do?

What is possible with genuine curiosity?

The big brown bear hugged the small yellow chicken and softly said, “We all have free will. This means that everyone must first be willing to look within themselves to see all of us. We both know that a tree is more than a tree … ”

Lost in sadness, the small yellow chicken’s tears formed a giant loving puddle at its feet. He kept pondering, “There must be a way! There’s always a way to foster genuine curiosity!”

After what seemed like a long, long time, he firmly announced, “What if we told our story? What if we showed humans how much they mean to us. Surely, they’ll then notice the likes of you and me?” Bursting into a fit of giggles, he excitedly proposed, “Who can resist a small yellow chicken and big brown bear living within a tree?”

Happy to notice his friend was now feeling better, the big brown bear said encouragingly, “This could work!”

To both their surprise, a middled-aged who was taking pictures of flowers and kissing grown-up trees stopped by. Compassionately looking at both of them, she softly whispered, “Good morning!” Then she took this picture of the big brown bear and the small yellow chicken living within a tree.

My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am a financial emotional intelligence coach who assists her clients in becoming genuinely curious as to what it possible when it comes to their personal finances so they multiply money and enjoy it! I can be reached at https://walkinginside.com/contact-us/

Another great resource to check out for genuine curiosity based leadership: https://fullmontyleadership.com 

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FIVE MYTHS EXPOSING CREATIVITY IN BUSINESS

“When it comes to creativity, who do you believe is creative?”I asked Paul (name changed) when he first came to see me.

Immediately, he answered, “There’s no money in the arts.”

As a result, it seemed to me that Paul had strictly associated creativity with the arts.

But can creativity only be associated with the arts?

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Here are five myths about creativity in the business world:

 

Myth #1. Only singers and painters are born with creativity? 

Back in 2011 (1), researchers wanted to determine who were the best national and international creators. With this in mind, they then asked Chinese and German undergraduates to answer their questions.

What they found out was that
>Chinese students mostly nominated politicians, scientists, and inventors, but rarely nominated artists.
>German undergraduates mostly nominated philosophers, artists, and writers, but rarely nominated politicians.

In other words, why didn’t business people make their list?

Could it be that business people tend to downplay their own creativity?

Myth #2. Highly intellectual people are never creative?

Similarly, in their report (2), the US National Library of Medicine determined that “Creativity is a concept of individual differences. Apparently, some people have higher potential to provide new solutions to old problems than others.

For example, business people like Elon Musk and Dov Baron both seem to possess this ability to provide new solutions to old problems.

Since these people are highly seasoned business people well-known for their creativity, would their name ever cross your mind as being creatives?

Regardless, Paul pointed out to me that “anything creative is a risky business.” This makes me wonder …

Can a creative person successfully build a financially sound business?

Myth #3. Risk-aversiveness and creativity never marry well?

For one thing, a risk-averse person is considered to be someone who will prefer the one option with the lower risk.

In this context …

Would you consider sex education a risky business? In fact, some people might refrain from investing in this business, because of their risk-aversion beliefs.

Let me ask you …

Have you heard of Laci Green in particular? She is a YouTube sensation who offers advice on everything from hookup culture to bedroom sadomasochism.

As a matter of fact, Laci is a former Mormon and is considered the next Dr. Ruth in some circles.

Under those circumstances …  Laci’s videos amassed over 122 million views, according to ‘The 30 Most Influential People on The Internet in 2016 (3).

Who would have known that this young woman was only 26 at the time?

It seems that young people can be hugely successful in business.

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Myth #4. A creativity career never pays well?

As an illustration, what did you want to be as a kid?

Did you want to be someone with a steady pay cheque?

Or did you want to be someone expressing their creativity?

Just to be sure, here are 10 unusual jobs that pay surprisingly well (4):

  • Embalmer (average $44,000 a year)

  • Hot Dog Vendor (average $30,000-$100,000 a year)

  • Personal Shopper (average $25,000-$100,000+ a year)

  • Ice Cream Taster (average $56,000 a year)

  • Virtual Head Hunter (average $250-$10,000 per referral)

  • Funeral Service Manager (average $80,000 a year)

  • Body Part Model (average $20-$1,000+ for an afternoon)

  • Live Mannequin (average up to $100 an hour)

  • Genetic Counsellor (average $56,000 a year)

  • Cruise Ship Entertainer (average $3,000-$4,500 a month, plus room and board)

 

Myth 5. Creativity is an individual process only?

To sum it up … What can a group of creative individuals coming together for a common purpose achieve?

Based on NewsCred Insights (5) …

Here are two of The Most Creative Content Marketing Agencies around:

  • BuzzFeed: widely acknowledged for sponsored content and quiz-taking formats.

  •  Grey Group: widely acknowledged for identifying and leveraging larger societal trends and pushing boundaries.

Let’s recap….

What are 5 ways you are already creative in business and did not know it?

 

You have the ability to:

  • believe you are creative.

  • provide new solutions to old problems.

  • spot ‘risk-averseness’ content and turn it into a gold mine.

  • see all the ways you are already being creative in business.

  • be part of a business team that has the ability to see the big picture.

As for Paul, he thanked me for offering him a fresh perspective.

But isn’t it what being creative is all about?

Offering a fresh perspective?

My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am an Emotional Intelligence Coach who assists her clients in accessing deeper levels of their creativity in their business and personal life.

For coaching inquiries, I can be reached at https://walkinginside.com/contact-us/

Your Emotional Intelligence Coach,
Anne
www.walkinginside.com

Here are the sources of my statistics:
(1) University of Hong Kong 2011 study: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/j.2162-6057.2011.tb01082.x/abstract
(2) The Relationship Between Intelligence And Creativity Study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3682183/
(3) TIME, Top 30 Most Influential Internet Sensations in 2016: https://time.com/4258291/30-most-influential-people-on-the-internet-2016/
(4) Forbes, 10 Unusual Jobs That Pay Surprisingly Well: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/05/23/10-unusual-jobs-that-pay-surprisingly-well/#7bb0250370a1
(5) NewsCred Insights, The 33 of Most Creative Content Marketing Agencies: https://insights.newscred.com/the-33-most-creative-content-agencies/[/fusion_text][/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container]

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THREE WAYS YOU ARE ALREADY CREATIVE

You were born being creative.

Being creative is our birthright and here is why:
“I want to be creative!” blurted Mark* when he first came to see me. Mark is a professional in his early thirties who feels there is more life than just sitting at a desk drawing rows and columns of numbers for his boss. When I replied that he is indeed creative, he looked at me, mouth open.
Like many other professionals perhaps, Mark had not realized yet how his level of critical thinking marries well with his creativity. I understand… like many of us, he had been taught from a young age that logic and creativity apparently make poor bed fellows. But is true? Is it always true that critical thinking and creativity can never rally for the same cause?
Let’s find out…

When it comes to….

#1: PROPORTIONALITY

The great painter Leonardo Da Vinci and other Renaissance masters are known to have used the mathematical ratio of 1.618 (also called the Golden Ratio) to accurately determine proportionality. Proportionality is the ability to allot proportions that are aesthetically pleasing to the eye and deemed attractively beautiful.

Proportionality is the ability to see the big picture.

Before painters put brush to canvas, many of them invested massive hours visualizing what it is they wanted to see manifested on canvas. They got clear on their big picture. They spent time inward feeling it, tasting, it, sensing it. Relentless, they kept nurturing their big picture until they were able to draw a resonating sketch from their inner vision.

The clearer a painter is about their big picture, the more they might be able to sketch a vision with accurate proportions. 

#2: DEPTH PERCEPTION

The word ‘depth’ is just another fancy way of saying ‘how deep’. When we measure the depth of one thing, we need to consider its length, height, and width. On top of this, we need to consider the distance between this one thing and another thing when we want to accurately experience depth perception.

Depth perception is the ability to put things in perspective.

One famous painter for his ability to challenge depth perception is Rembrandt. In many of his pantings, Rembrandt had his subject’s one eye looking directly at the viewer with their other eye looking off to the side. Talk about keeping an eye on all things!

The more a painter can hold in perspective various aspects of their big picture, the more they might be able to uphold and shift their vision when necessary.

#3: BRUSHSTROKE

This is often where we see the amateurs get separated from the professionals. For a painter, a brushstroke is not only the paint left on their canvas after by a single application of their brush, it also represents the configuration given to this paint, aka its textured form.

The master painter Monet was known for his fast brush strokes across his canvas in order to depict light. He said he loved depicting colours in new and experimental ways and this experiential way of expressing his passion became his beloved trademark.

Brushstroke is the ability to passionately contribute

singularly to an overall effect. 

The more a painter lets their life experience guide their brushstrokes with a passionate heart, the more they might become known and valued for their work.

Let’s stop here for a moment… and ponder the question…

What does a painter and business person have in common? 

I believe the answer is,

Proportionality

Depth perception

Brushstroke

‘How is this possible?’ you may ask.

Here’s why:

#1. In business, proportionality is about seeing the big picture.  

Before a business person sets out an action plan, they usually invest massive hours visualizing what it is they want to see manifested in their business. They get clear on their big picture. They spend time inward feeling it, tasting, it, sensing it. Relentless, they keep nurturing their big picture until they are able to draw a resonating blueprint from their inner vision.
The clearer a business person is about the big picture, the more they might be able to draw an action blueprint with accurate proportions. 

#2. In business, depth perception is about putting things in perspective.

The more a business person can hold in perspective various aspects of the big picture, the more they might be able to uphold and shift their vision when necessary.

#3. In business, brushstroke is about passionately contributing singularly to an overall effect.

This is often where we see the amateurs get separated from the professionals. For a painter, a brushstroke is not only the paint left on their canvas after by a single application of their brush, it also represents the configuration given to this paint, aka its textured form. The same is valid for a business person in the course of their business.
The more a business person lets their life experience guide their brushstrokes (actions) with a passionate heart, the more they will most likely become known and valued for their contribution/work.

Let’s recap…

What are three ways you are already creative and most likely did not know about?

  • You have the ability to see the big picture and draw an action blueprint.

  • You have the ability to put things in perspective.

  • You have the ability to contribute singularly to an overall effect with heart passion.

Having said this… The main problem for my client Mark is that he did Not believe he is creative. He thought creativity was something outside of himself instead of something inherent to him.

So let me ask you…

Why do we stop being creative?

 

Why do we pursue brains over creativity?

I believe the answer is, because we think it will be better.

Is it though? How was Mark’s falsely believing critical thinkers can ‘never’ be creative ever going to make him access deeper levels of his own creativity? Clearly, thinking we are ‘non-creative’ does Not work.

With this in mind…

How do things become better?

 

I believe things become better when we focus on

  • becoming self-aware. ‘Where am I showing creativity right now?’

  • becoming intentional. ‘What can I do right now to increase my level of creativity?’

  • becoming accountable. ‘How can I hold myself accountable so I keep tapping into my creativity?

I could certainly relate to Mark. For decades, I believed the lie that I could ‘never’ take beautiful pictures and, as a result, had stopped taking pictures altogether. It wasn’t until I learned to become self-aware, intentional, and accountable that I started taking pictures that I now believe have a vibrant clarity to them.

In conclusion, now that you know you are indeed a creative person,

What do you believe might be your greatest challenge?

My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am an Emotional Intelligence Coach who assists her clients in accessing deeper levels in their creativity so, like Mark, they get to apply their creativity both in business and personal life.

For coaching inquiries, connect with me at https://walkinginside.com/contact-us/ or reach out to me at anne@walkinginside.com

Your Emotional Intelligence Coach,
Anne
www.walkinginside.com
To know more ways of becoming a creative, visit https://fullmontyleadership.com 
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THREE WAYS IGNORING YOUR CREATIVITY IS BLOCKING YOUR DREAM JOB

When Joy* came to see me, she was dressed in black from head to toe, not because she found that colour trendy, but because, as she said, she thought it camouflaged her body fat. Looking at the ground as she said these words, she retreated deeply into her seat. This behaviour of hers told me a lot about Joy, how her life seemed to lack the vibrant colours of creativity. 
 
Through my talking with her, I found out she did not like her job and wanted a new position because she felt unseen and unheard by upper management. When she wrote her boss yet another memo about an ongoing problem in her division, she claimed her words landed on deaf ears. Ever been in that situation?
 
When I asked her if she had provided her boss with a viable solution to this ongoing problem, she quietly said no, then blurted out there was no point doing so because management apparently ‘never’ listens anyway.
 
 

Have you ever been in a situation where you knew the problem,

but had no solution?

 
After her work shift, Joy confessed she went home feeling grumpy and exhausted. At night, she ate her dinner in her lap and flipped through Netflix programs to see what she would be watching for the next 2-3 hours. She went to bed at about the same time every night and slept on the same side on her bed every day. When she woke up the next morning, Joy said she repeated those behaviours “pretty much the same”.
 

Can you imagine what it feels like to be stuck in a routine that blocks creativity?

 
Joy was fed up with her current job and wanted a new position. She wanted a better job with better pay. Laughing, she said she wanted to become part of upper management so she could change the ways things were done in her division. This is why Joy was coming to see me, to assist her in landing her dream job position.
 
I asked…
 

“What would it feel like to have a solution to all your problems?”

 
At first, Joy thought I was joking with her, but when she saw I was being serious, her eyes lit up, she leaned forward, and she told me how she and her co-workers would stop stressing out and getting exhausted, especially when they were low on staff and clients kept walking in.
 

“Where do you believe the root of the problem is?”

 
Joy stopped talking and looked at me. Though she was tempted to say “management” (as she confessed later), she was also starting to realize she was the one complaining about an ongoing problem while offering zero viable solution to solve it. She quietly answered, “Me.”
 
That day, I sent Joy with simple homework to do. She was to eat her dinner at the dinner table. She was to write a short paragraph about her life, storytelling style, with an anecdote and lots of feeling. She was also to switch her sleeping position head to feet and to show up in more vibrant colours the next time I was seeing her.
 

What do you believe happens when we keep ignoring our creativity?

 
At our next coaching session, Joy told me how weird it felt at first sleeping ‘upside down’ but she was now liking it. She said she can now see the moon outside her bedroom window and it is lovely. She then showed me her paragraph that she had rewritten over and over. Her smile left as she blurted ‘but it’s not perfect’. As for her clothes, she was still wearing black from head to toe.
 
Like so many, Joy was fighting her own habits, habits that were familiar to her and also kept blocking her creativity from flowing. It is any wonder she had a hard time coming up with a viable, creative solutions?
 
Through further coaching with me, Joy realized she was the solution to all her problems.
 
 
Let me ask you…
 

Why do we become non-creative?

Why do we pursue crushing routine over flowing creativity?

 
I believe the answer is, because we think it will be better.
 
Is it though? How was Joy living her life geared to constant routine ever going to advance her dream of finding creative solutions to all her problems?
 
Clearly, pursuing routine over creativity does Not work.
 
With this in mind…
 

How do things become better?

 

I believe, things become better when we focus on 

  • becoming aware of our potential. I am the solution to all my problems.

  • becoming flexible in thinking and behaviours. ‘What can I do right now to bring forth my creativity?’

  • becoming accountable for our actions. ‘How can I ensure I keep fostering my creativity and the one of others?”

 
I could certainly relate to Joy. I used to let routine rule my life and kill my creativity until I learned to embody that I am the solution to all my problems. As a result,  I changed my way of thinking and doing things and became highly accountable for all my choices.
 

Here are some rock solid tips to assist you who want to access your creativity to land your dream job:

 

  • Use mathematical precision in your creativity. A ‘love’ for constant routine is usually associated with being risk-averse. Since being creative is about being willing to take risks, incorporate mathematical like precision in your creative solutions to feel safe. For example, Joy incorporated supporting statistics as to why her division had to change their way of doing business. Seeing these stats motivated her even further to come up with a viable solution to her ongoing problem at work.

  • Get out of your own way. Play the 30 squares game. Draw 30 squares and in each square write a solution to a specific problem. Before long, you might ‘run out’ of ‘logical’ ideas and start writing down ‘crazy’ solutions. Before you know it, you are out of your way as you allow viable solutions to present themselves more naturally.

  • Have an accountability system/person in place. Though many of us say we want to become more creative, the thing is, creativity seems to scare the shit out of many. Therefore, having someone holding us accountable for our displayed level of creativity is crucial to keep us going towards our dream job.

 
Now imagine somebody has just read these tips…
 

What do you believe will be their greatest challenge?

 
Before she came to see me, Joy had all the best intentions in the world, but she lacked a solid accountability system. This is why as soon as she felt challenged in her routine habits, she familiarly went back to wearing only black.
 
My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am an Emotional Intelligence Coach who holds her clients highly accountable so they get to put their actions where their mouth is, and like Joy, get to implement their creative solutions. Joy is now forming a consultancy company.
 
For coaching inquiries, reach out to me at anne@walkinginside.com
 
Your Emotional Intelligence Coach,
Anne
www.walkinginside.com
www.fullmontyleadership.com

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HOW TO ELIMINATE A OO7 DOUBLE LIFE

When James* called upon me, he asked that we meet in an open restaurant downtown Vancouver. Asking him why there instead of my office, he laughed and said, ‘Because I need it this way.’ 
 
On the agreed upon date and time of rendez-vous, James sat down in front of me and immediately placed his hands under the table where I could Not see them. This gesture alone told me a lot about James, how easily he pretended to be emotionally open yet felt the want to hide once in front of me.
 
Through my talking with him, I found out James was one of nine children from a very large Catholic South American family. He grew up being an altar boy, going to Sunday school, and saying prayers. But something was Not working for him… In his teenage years, he realized he was gay and being gay is apparently something deemed unacceptable in his family and culture.
 
 

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt rejected for what you are?

 
 
James moved to Vancouver, found a job, and said he met the ‘love of his life’, whom he married a couple of years later. Though saying he is happily married, James had two Facebook accounts, one ‘straight’ and one gay, to ‘spare’ the family as he said. Looking down, he confessed few people (if any) where he came from knew he was even married.
 
 

Can you imagine what it feels like to hide things from the people you love? 

 
 
In tears, James said he needed to come out of the closet as a gay and this is why he was coming to see me. He felt he could Not do it alone, he said this was too much for him to face alone.
 

 
I asked…
 
 

In a perfect world, what would your life be like right now?

 
 
Jame’s face brightened. He shared how he would only have one Facebook account and one Instagram account. He laughed saying he would show pictures from the ‘crazy’ adventures he and his husband have been on, their food expeditions, their vacations together, even their honeymoon trip…
 
I asked James if he truly loved his husband. Without hesitation he answered choking up, “Are you kidding me? He is the best thing that has ever happened to me!”
 
I replied,
 
 

When we truly love someone, including ourselves, do we hide who we are?

 
 
James burst into tears. He did Not seem to care anymore whether the waiter or other patrons saw him crying; his shoulders were heaving up and down with heavy sobs. Then he took a deep breath, clenched his teeth, and said, “I deserve better! My husband deserves better! I am coming out!” I was impressed by this fiery determination.
 
That day, he went home with homework to do. Over the next seven days, he had to call every member of his family, his eight siblings and two parents, and tell each one of them he was gay. His framework looked something like ‘I am calling to share something important to me. I am gay. Being gay is a part of me, it is Not all of me. I love you.”
 
 

Have you ever had to stand up for what you believe in? How easy was it?

 
 
At our next coaching session, James sat down with his journal open. Where he had drawn ten little people with their name on top of each, three of them were still left unmarked by an ‘X’ signifying ‘the job is done’ and they knew he was gay.
 
I open directly,
 
 

What happened to you missing your goal?

 
James grabbed his journal with both hands. He mumbled how he was Not truly close to the only sibling left on the list as this person had once sexually assaulted him when he was a kid… He also said how many of his siblings were now sending him harassment messages telling him he was ‘wrong’, going to ‘hell, and ‘Don’t tell mom and dad! They’re too old and mom’s depression is too bad!’
 
Like so many, James was caught once more living a double life, living in the background of his own life while trying to get ‘approval’ from others, especially from members of his family.
 
 

Whose approval is most important to you to be happy?

 
I pointed to the top of the page where all his little people drawings were and I asked him to write down a story title expressing what his goal is. His pen almost pierced the paper as he wrote in capital letters at the top,
 

“I AM COMING OUT!”

 
 
Let me ask you…
 

Why do we become untruthful?

Why do we pursue lies?

 
 
I believe the answer is, because we think it will be better.
 
Is it though? How was James’ constant lying about being gay going to advance his goal of coming out of the closet?
 
Clearly, denying our truth does Not work.
 
With this in mind…
 

How do things become better?

 

I believe, things become better when we focus on 

  • becoming truthful. ‘What is my truth?’

  • becoming intentional. ‘What can I do right now to uphold my truth?’

  • becoming accountable. ‘What can I do to hold myself accountable so I live my truth?

 
I could certainly relate to James. When I got married, I did not tell my then husband about the way I grew up, the level of violence. I thought he would ‘love’ me more if I buried what had happened to me as a child. Can you relate? My life changed for the better when I became truthful, intentional, and accountable.
 
 

Here are some rock solid tips to assist you who may suffer from ‘007 Double Life  Syndrome’:

Once you have identified what your truth is, whether it is to come of the closet as gay or lesbian, leave an unhappy marriage, change jobs, or …
 

  • Make a list of who needs to know. When we make the decision to come out with our truth, often, we tend to believe everyone ‘must’ know all at once. Spare yourself feeling overwhelmed, work in stages.

  • Come up with an on point message telling your truth. Keep it short. Keep it sweet. Keep it to the point. Understand there is plenty of time later to go into the ‘Why did this happen?’ if you ever chose to.

  • Have an accountability system/person in place. Though many of us say we ‘know’ what we need to do in order to be happy, many of us end up losing our nerve when the stakes are deemed high.Therefore, having someone on your team who is Not emotionally attached to your situation allows for actions with a greater sense of clarity.

 
 
Now imagine somebody has just read these tips…
 

What do you believe will be their greatest challenge?

 
Before James came to see me, he had all the best intentions in the world, BUT he lacked a solid accountability system. This is why as soon as he went into ‘What will they think of me?’ he lost his nerve of telling his truth to his family.
 
My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am an Emotional Intelligence Coach who holds her clients highly accountable so they get to live their truth openly, and like James, get to come out at the top of their story page.
 
For coaching inquiries, reach out to me at anne@walkinginside.com
 
Your Emotional Intelligence Coach,
Anne
www.walkinginside.com
www.fullmontyleadership.com
 

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ROUND AND ROUND

ROUND AND ROUND
 
Round and round
We go again
On the merry-go-round of life.
Ups and downs,
We think that’s life
Until we get off our mount.
 
Round and round
We go again
On the merry-go-round of life.
Laughter and tears
We think we’re here
Until we go deep within.
 
In and in
We go again
On the merry-go-round of life,
Darkness and light
Fuse into one
Until we go round and round.
 
With love & compassion,
Anne
 
What makes any of us go round and round in circles?
 
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HOW FAR AM I WILLING TO GO?

HOW FAR AM I WILLING TO GO?
 
Am I willing to go beyond the stars
Where you and I were born
Where the sun befriends the moon
Where rainbows bridge us all?
 
Am I willing to go further than the eye can see
Where trees plant their roots
Where flowers drop their seeds
Where leaves take in the colours of seasons?
 
Am I willing to go deeper than the ocean floor
Where all the river beds make one
Where the illusion of division is triumphed over
Where we all feel as one?
 
How far am I willing to go?
 
I am willing to go
At the centre of myself
Where I hear it all begins
The point of origin
That unites us all.
 
I am willing to go
Where ‘broken’ lines disappear
Where there is no you or me
Where there is only a we.
 
I am willing to go
Where love is no more a concept
Where love becomes fully being
Where love is visible in all.
 
If ever I think I have reached this place
Where I hear it all begins
Ask me again
‘How far am I willing to go?’
And I will come back to
Being in the here and now
Until we all feel that we belong.
 
With Compassion,
Anne
 
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I — USED TO THINK

I — USED TO THINK
 
I used to think
A tree was just a tree
I saw it with my own mind
Roots, trunk, branches, leaves.
 
I used to think
You were different than me
I saw it with my own mind
Bodies, fences, judgement, fear.
 
Thanks to my mentor, I met me
For a moment, I stopped thinking,
In stillness, my mind cracked open
Discovering sunshine cooling breeze within.
 
How refreshing
To hear inside the giggles of a small child
Who never thought we were separate
Who’s always known we all belong.
 
Because of my love for this child and me
The lines in my mind are becoming blurry
If there is nothing separating you from me
Then, who am I? What are we?
 
Willing to know, I ask her to show me the way
How I may serve her from a place of integrity
Laughing, she is showing a world full of wonders
Where roots and bodies, you and me,
Are merging into, this or something greater,
Then… I used to think.
 
With love & compassion,
Anne
 
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WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT SADNESS?

If I were to ask you right now,
 

“Where does sadness come from?”

 
What is your answer?
 
 
I have come to realize that ‘sadness’ is one of these big words that so many people use without truly stopping to ask themselves,
 

“What does sadness mean to me?” 

 
 
At least, this used to be my case in the past…
 
 
But now, I am fascinated with what I call blanket words, words we seem to throw casually over whatever event, person, or situation we might be unable to cope with at the present moment…
 
Sounds familiar? 
 
As usual for me lately, when I want to know to the bottom of something, I start where it all begins… with the words we were taught as children…
 
 

In English, the word sadness (sad) first came from Germanic origin, saed,

meaning ‘sated, wary’.

 
 
As you may probably know, the word ‘sated’ is linked to ‘saturated’, meaning ‘having enough’ or ‘feeling full’.
 
Sooo,
 

Is sadness ‘having enough wariness that we feel full?’

 
If this is the case, then this statement implies there is no other room within ourselves to experience any other feeling in that moment.
 
Is it true?
 
Is it always true?
 
Most likely Not!
 
Therefore,
 

Is sadness a feeling that can be felt in conjunction with other feelings?

 
 
Wooooo….
 
Then it begs the question,
 

“Why so sad if joy is just beside?”

 
 
 
I kept on digging….
 
Turns out the word sadness took its saed away and turned to the Dutch zat, the German satt and the Latin satis, also meaning ‘enough’. But then, something fascinating happened!
 

The original meaning of sadness was replaced in Middle English 

by the senses ‘steadfast, firm, serious, sober’.

 
 
OK, now I am going to poke fun here…
 

Is sadness a steadfast feeling? 

 
According to Google, steadfast means “resolutely or dutifully firm and unwavering.’
 
HOLY SPITBALLS!
 

Is sadness something we must resolutely and dutifully 

firm and unwavering feel?

 
To say resolutely, one has to determinedly agree to to be sad first.
 
To say dutifully, one has to agree to continue feeling sad out of ‘duty’.
 
To say firm and unwavering, one has to believe they have zero choice in the matter.
 
Is it true?
 
Is it always true?
 
 
 
Apparently, it is only much much later that the English decided to give sadness the meaning of ‘sorrowful’, ‘a feeling involving grief or loss’.
 
Wow, it seems to have taken the English quite a long time to figure out what sadness means to them?
 
Now, maybe the French know ‘better’?
 

The word ‘tristesse’ comes from the Latin tristicia, tristitia, meaning

… an affliction

… a melancholic temperament

… an ambiance marked by affliction or melancholy

… an aspect of something that triggers a state of affliction

 
 
Fascinating, is you ask me!
 
Why?
 

If sadness is ONE aspect of our self that is feeling afflicted,

then it implies we have within our self OTHER aspects that are non-sad.

 
 
HOLY REVELATION!
 
This is amazing news for anyone who has ever believed they might never come out of depression.
 
This means, sadness is just but one feeling within our self that, we can choose to feel and move to joy and happiness.
 
When I hit what I call the shitter, I had no idea I had been depressed my whole life.
 
I mean,
 

How would anyone know they are depressed 

if they grew up with depressed people (their normal)? 

 
 
For me, feeling depressed was my normal, what I grew up with. Therefore, unknowingly (this is what normal does, engrain stuff in us), I carried this feeling of depression with me throughout most of my life.
 
I never quite understood why other people could be so happy looking at a flower or hugging a tree… until I met my mentor Dov Baron. He showed me sadness was just one feeling within me, that there were many others, and I could choose to feel more positive feelings into my life.
 
WELCOME SELF-EMPOWERMENT!
 
Yes, it has taken me a lot of self-compassion to change my negatively wired upbringing to feel more positive feelings of well-being.
 
Here is the thing though, if I can do it with a deeply raging father who sexually abused me as a child and a psychotic mother who believed she was pregnant with Jesus Christ, I firmly believe you also have the power within yourself to change your life. We all do!
 
The question is,
 

“What meaning are you now willing to assign to sadness?”

 
I trust you have found value in this article. My name is Anne Beaulieu and I am an Emotional Intelligence Coach, Authentic Speaker, and Compassion Blogger. I can be reached at anne@walkinginside.com
 
With Compassion,
Anne
 
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AWAKENING

AWAKENING
 
I awoke in the middle of the night,
Frightened and scared,
Thinking I was alone.
I looked around the bedroom,
Stillness and shadows greeting me.
What an unfamiliar sight, I thought to myself,
To be alone with one’s thoughts,
To be shyly greeting one’s feelings.
 
Out of habit,
I called out a name,
Thinking you would come,
But the echo came back empty.
I did not yet understand,
Love is neither a name or a game,
It is a flowing feeling,
Like waves, rising and falling,
Amidst our own waters.
 
Thinking I knew better,
I turned my bed into a raft,
I paddled day and night,
Still hoping to find you,
Afloat on another raft nearby.
 
Feeling more lost than ever,
I finally stopped doing this crazy thing,
And started instead to
Listen to the wind
Who has always known my name.
 
It said,
“Dive,
Dive deep within,
For the one you are looking for,
The Beloved,
Is awaiting.”
 
I told the Wind,
“I am no Mermaid,
To flag my tale under water.”
And the Wind softly replied,
“Trust and Have Faith,
Within you is always the Way.”
 
So I took a majestic dive
Perhaps the way Dolphins do?
Feeling my own breathing
Echoing back to me
The beauty of universes within.
 
I now use my raft as a diving board,
In whatever room I find myself in,
I remember Ocean Waves belong
To the One
Awakened in the middle of the night.
 
With Deep Gratitude,
Anne
 
Dov Baron, thank you for being the Wind speaking softly to me, I am grateful
 
 
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